Eye Movement Integration
This may be one of the simplest processes needing the least amount of story or context. Yet it is surprisingly effective when done correctly. So read the instructions in the book, then watch the video for a good examples and a couple of useful ways you can vary the process.
Steve Andreas demonstrates “Eye Movement Integration” with a Vietnam Vet.
The Eye Movement Integration Process
Now pick a simple light weight experience in your life to experiment with, and go back to page 96 and go through the process again.
After using this process a few times with low level examples, you'll be practiced enough to try on more challenging ones. Let us know how it's going for you in the comments. 🙂
A really big benefit of practicing all of these processes, even if the you don't have a strong need for a particular one right now, is that your are adding more arrows to your quiver, more tools to your kit. It's a great way of creating extra resources, some slack in your life. Run through them a few times with simple examples from your life and you'll be comfortable automatically using them whenever a need arises.
HI I bought the audible book and am using this website to supplement, it works well with these videos and synopsi. Excellent exercises and material in the book and site. The narrator sends us to nelco.com/x.x, this no longer works? suggestions?
The site is this one, and the url is eg.nlpco.com/x-x – not nelco.com/x.x
Or you can use nlpessentialguide.com The first page has a table of contents.
I did this for 3 things. 1) resistance to eating dinner with my mother who I’ve felt rather annoyed by because I feel like she’s constantly trying to subconsciously manipulate me (or was I manipulating myself?) 2) crappy memories with an old boyfriend and 3) being told by my father as a child that I can’t be successful or make money as a female/woman.
I then went to have dinner with my mother and thanks to this, I was able to easily and clearheadedly carry on a conversation with her remembering that I don’t have to react to every word she says and I have a choice in how I respond to her. It was the first time in a very long time that I felt almost unburdened by her which to me feels like a miracle. I feel much lighter about the crappy exbf. And #3 I will need to continue processing as this message goes deep. There may also be a better technique for this?
Thank you for all you do. It’s very helpful.
From this and your other comments, you are doing terrifically at applying the understandings provided in the book. You can keep working with this material, or if you want more assistance, you may find it more satisfying to work with a masterful NLP therapist. Issues of the depth you are considering can be difficult to resolve by yourself. If you would like to discover what is possible with personal assistance, visit https://conniraeandreas.com/ She is a true master of this work.
Dear Mr. Dotz,
By the way, I am very much enjoying my first read of “NLP The Essential Guide”. I’ve wondered for a long time about NLP, and I’m finding the text fascinating reading. The exercises are great.
the message “34 minutes later”…. what happened during those 34 minutes which are not in the video? some supplementary action, procedure o exercise?
Steve: “I continued doing what I was doing before the 34 minute gap, having him follow my pen, but using different eye movements, pausing after each set to get feedback from him about any changes in intensity or quality.”
This is typical in using this process especially with deep and serious experiences. And amazing to remove the stress of over 30 years in some 30 plus minutes.
I am unable to imagine putting the feeling of resistance on the tip. I tend to feel to be overcome with resistance and laziness when I try an imagine a feeling, and this is one of the reasons I have been unable to do some of the previous exercises.
My earlier reply must have been waylaid somehow.
What I suggest is choosing something easier, a “lighter” feeling or a precursor feeling. So instead of starting with resistance, perhaps boredom or simply disinterest.
Disinterest: looking at a magazine rack at the airport, my eyes pass right over the fashion magazines. I’m not resistant or even bored. They simply have no interest.
Bored: doing or contemplating something tedious.
Another way to go is to practice with something to which you simply have much less, but still some, resistance.
So I really resist doing my taxes myself (with good reason 😉 but I can overcome the lack of desire to assemble my data and send it to my tax guy.
Love the eye movement integration exercise – really very cathartic.