The Essential Guide
Welcome To Your Resource Site For “NLP: The Essential Guide!”

NLP: The Essential Guide

Welcome To Your Resource Site For “NLP: The Essential Guide!”

You may have already read quite a bit of the book or you may be looking through it for the first time. In either case, this is where you’ll find demonstrations, additional materials and bonus activities and examples of the processes described in the book and some additional ones.

These resources will help you discover the many different ways in which you can use these vital tools. As you do so you’ll begin to notice the simple and easy ways in which you are already enjoying more of what you want and less of what you don’t want in your life.

You might find it fun to start by making a list of a few simple things that you want to accomplish as a result of using what you’re learning in this book. Starting with a few simple things will give you that sense of accomplishment a great way to build your confidence in your ability to use these fascinating new materials to best suit you.

Throughout this site we’ll be using a lot of excerpts from our two major NLP distance learning programs, the NLP Comprehensive Portable Practitioner and Portable Master Practitioner programs. They are complete resources of NLP created by masters of teaching and using NLP. We will also include other resources from our extensive library organized here to make your exploration and inclusion of NLP in your life as accessible and satisfying as possible. So please let us know in the comments how this is working for you, and how we can make this journey even more easily satisfying for you.

This site and the book were designed together to work together. The first part of the book and the site is designed to give you the tools and  understandings to increase your self-awareness and personal change skills. Most of the models and processes are based on NLP, a functional modeling system for human behavior. If NLP is new and mysterious, here’s an introduction by our Senior Trainer Tom Best.

The first part of the site features a lot of video and extra materials and examples to make it easier to get these essential models and change processes “in your muscle” as we say in NLP, meaning to make them automatically available for you. The second part of the book focuses on increasing your awareness and ease in understanding and working with other people. Using the same processes you learned in Section One, Section Two frames and applies these processes, and a few new ones, to understanding and influencing others.
This site is a work in progress, and I look forward to your input, feedback, questions and suggestions. Tracy Hoobyar, Tom’s daughter and an accomplished NLP’er in her own right, and I will be watching daily and responding to you.
So go ahead, explore, and if somehow you’ve gotten this far without a copy of the book, you can get one here, now. Most important, have fun and
Tom Dotz

Comments (23)

I love the book but have found that some of the QR and links do not work. In particular the link: I was searching for your list of favorite books. Can you please help with this? Thanks!

Hi Renee,
Thanks for letting me know. We moved the site to a new url “” I’ve created a new “favorites” page at that link /21-4 and also at
Working on the rest, and
Appreciate your patience,

I read the sample on Kindle YEARS ago, and just never pulled the trigger… Finally, I grabbed the audiobook and am on my way to mastery! Looking forward to this growth journey with you. Thank you!

Purchased the audio book what a great piece of work it’s starting to change my life already

Thank you

Brian Ballinger

i have been reading the NLP book of yours and its awesome information.

I wasn’t sure how else to leave a message, I hope this is OK. I’m reading the book and when talking about anchors the book says, “The next question might be ‘Well, what do I do with it?’ Or ‘I can’t find an experience like that?’ You covered the first question, but not the second. That is where I have trouble. Remembering an experience where I was optimistic, confident and happy with myself. Any suggestions?

If thinking of an experience doesn’t work, think of a time when you did. It doesn’t have to be a 12 on a scale of one to 10; a brief time, a mild eperience will do to start. You can build on it by enhancing your anchor, and by rehearsal – repetition. you can also think of someone, perhaps a character in fiction, a play or movie, who was demonstrating those desired characteristics. Imagine yourself being that character feeling those feelings, and anchor that experience, usingit as a reference experience.

Hi! I just started reading the book and was thrilled to find this site that will help me understand and apply what I am learning even better. I am interested in whatever else you have to offer (newsletter etc) Thank you

Good afternoon

Fantastic work on this book…. I have downloaded it through audible and am finding it most helpful.

Is there a link where I can download all of the material please?

I appreciate there some links for the chapters on the main page, but I wish to print them all off so I have them to hand when I am working though and making notes.

Many thanks


The best way to get the entire book is to pick up a Kindle version on Amazon here:
You’ll find it highly useful as a companion because I organized it with hotlinks to the videos and exercises. Plus you can make notes in the Kindle version. 🙂

Thank you

Hi there, I purchased your audio book to further enhance my NLP skills. I’ve heard it mentioned several times while listening, that as a result of this purchase I have access to resources on your website that normally appear in the printed version. Can you tell me where to find these? Thanks so much. Leanne

Excellent book!

I’m loving this book already. I can’t wait to learn hiw to improve myself in every aspect in my life. Thank you so much for creating this book and website.

Thank you very much for this awesome follow up resource. It truly is a great value and an example of over delivering.

Hi Tom,
I am enjoying your book thoroughly, it is so engaging. Absolute brilliant work.

Hi Tom, Tracy,
I purchased this book here in Australia to see what NLP is
all about. I am retired, so I’ve seen a lot of stuff. I am greatly
impressed by your material and looking forward to improving
my communication skills in an organized manner, which you
are presenting. Some of these skills have been around and
some are new relying on current scientific study of how the
brain works. I am currently trying out some of your things
on people I know and they have definitely helped my
relationships. I am now looking forward each day to trying
these techniques out on people who I come in contact with.

Best wishes, and I wish Tom were still here to thank him.

Thanks for the nice compliments, Edward!
Your sentiment is also much appreciated.
Tom Dotz

In the book on page 362 it says there are downloadable versions of the 21 day guide worksheets, but the page does not exist. Can you please give me the correct link.
I enjoyed the book & want to do the 21 day practices.

thank you

Hi Dianne,

Thanks for pointing this out. Somehow the page became locked. I’ve fixed it and you can access it now.

Tom Dotz

I’m looking for the workbook referenced on pg 362. I get the “page not found” error. Is there another URL to access the workbook?


HI Erin,
Please accept my apology for the delay in replying. Somehow your message wasn’t forwarded to me!
The page you want is here:
Best regards,
Tom Dotz

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