1-4 Chapter Summary, Additional Demos, Bonus Activities

You've made a great start with this chapter. Here are a few reminders of what you've explored so far:

Chapter 1: Key Ideas

  • Our brains interpret the sensory input we get, and assign a meaning to it. As soon as a meaning is assigned, it leads to an emotion. This is unconscious, and fast, so that we have the stimulus and the emotion. The rest is out of awareness.
  • When we learn, we generalize. Because we had some experiences in the past that seem similar, we generalize and automate; it’s an efficiency strategy.
  • Generalization is also how beliefs get formed; then beliefs filter all the different stimuli coming in. The mind doesn’t really get raw information; it no longer gets to choose.
  • Deletion is when the mind ignores specific sensory input.
  • Distortion is changing an experience from what it actually is to some modified form of it.
  • Each of us is a blend of body, brain, and mind.
  • The world inside someone’s mind is based on five languages: sight, sound, smell, taste, and feeling.
  • The world you see and live in is really the world inside your head.
  • People often favor one sense or “rep mode” over the others so they are more visual . . . more auditory . . . or more kinesthetic. (new tip: it frequently changes from one context to another: eating a meal…watching a sunset…)
  • What people remember is a moving target; it shifts each time someone calls up a memory.
  • Our minds can recall what we specifically experienced and combine remembered elements to create new imagined experiences and ideas—which are critical to change and innovation.
  • Consciously using mental sticky notes (anchors) is a powerful way to strengthen positive mental “states” and diminish negative ones.

Bonus Activities

  • As you have or recall positive experiences, step into these and relive them. Add these pictures, sounds, and feelings to the anchor you created on 2nd knuckle of your middle finger.
  • Continue to play with the Circle of Excellence (additional description here). Strengthen the one you explored in this chapter – or create another one with a different focus by changing the situation or the kind of resources you’re working with.
  • Notice differences between how you recall an event, and how someone else who was there remembers it. Consider what personal filters may have shaped the way you experienced, interpreted, and remembered what happened.
  • Identify generalizations that you’ve made, but may not have been aware of before.
  • If you come across one or two memories that are painful, write these down so you can use these as examples when you’ve learned new ways to shift your experience.
  • Use the notes pages at the end of each chapter or keep a journal to briefly capture your discoveries, accomplishments, questions, and things you might want to change in the future.
  • Get a friend or two to volunteer to practice with you. That way you can discuss what you’re learning and get immediate feedback on the processes you're practicing.

Review and Refresh: The Circle of Excellence

Circle of Excellence Demonstration

Review of Demonstration and Exercise Guide

Review of Circle of Excellence Exercise

Comments (22)

Hi tom,

I’m only 2 weeks in but I’m already noticing subtle differences in how I react to things which is great.

I purchased the book through audible and i’m listening on the way yo and from work. I having some difficulty in finding the activities / summaries referenced in the book and was wondering if there is a complete pdf version I can download?

Thanks again


Hi David,
Thanks for the kind comment. Since there is no pdf of the whole site, I created an extensive listing of the site and posted it right above this comment section on the home page. I hope that helps.
You may also find it easier to use the new address, nlpessentialguide.com

Thoroughly enjoying these videos. I am going through the audiobook a second time but this time taking notes and applying. I am a homeopath and integrating NLP into my practice. Excellent!

Christopher Fleischman

Can you show an image or diagram of the kinesthetic personal anchor of touching the second knuckle with the tip of the thumb? I’m not sure I understand which Knuckle is the ‘second knuckle’

Hi Christopher,
You can use any knuckle or other point you can easily identify. The “second knuckle” is mentioned just to specify a location for instructional purposes. Kinesthetic anchors can be created anywhere on the body. Anchors can also be created by location, such as in the “Circle of Excellence” process, and visually and auditorily. Essentially you are creating a stimulus response loop, which is easily reinforced by repetition.


I’ve just started listening to this book on Audible and up to chapter 1.4. The book mentions that ‘The world inside someone’s mind is based on five languages: sight, sound, smell, taste, and feeling’.

Just to clarify, feeling as one of the five languages, is this emotion or sensory touch, as in feeling something with your hands? If emotion, than can you please explain why is sensory touch not a language?

Thanking you in advance for this explanation.

Kind regards

As we use it, feeling refers to both proprioceptive – perception or awareness of the position and movement of the body, and touch. Certainly touch is a means of connection and communication. Emotions are complex states different from direct sensory experience, and are not a direct form of communication, although humans are pretty good at assessing each other’s emotional state.

Swamini Tattvavidyananda

Thank you. The book is great. These demonstration videos give great clarity. Really good work. Thanks

This book has been great so far.

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Great book with great video content. I must say thats a great work guys. I really enjoy the process and the progress. Thank you.

Can the circle of excellence be perform alone without any assistance?

Absolutely. I’ve used it that way a lot; it’s one of the easiest to do yourself.

This has become my favourite NLP book (and as a qualified Practitioner I have a TON of them).
Absolutely brilliant!
Charl Viljoen

Is it the memory or the emotion that im anchoring? Or both?

Yes both, actually. The memory triggered by the anchor contains the emotion, or re-creates it for us. Frequently the content of the memory will be out of our awareness – unconsious,if you will. So we suddenly have this feeling ‘out of the blue’… and then, if we backtrack a little we may find the memory and the anchor that triggered it.

I have really enjoyed the videos. I have been hooked on NLP from the moment I started studying it 8 months ago. Thanks so much for everything

Love this book.
This is my first introduction to NLP,
very similar to hypnosis, really enjoying the video training aswell!
Thank you!

Thanks, Nathalie. So kind! If you have a moment, please feel free to post this to Amazon as well.
It really helps.

Thanks,Brien, I’m glad you enjoyed them!

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